"Give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime." - Chinese Proverb

Keep feeding a man a fish and he'll develop reliance on you - your feelings of guilt and helpfulness will fall into this trap that both parties do not know they've created. The result is much time wasted, particularly on the helper's side as they have nothing to gain.

Don't get me wrong - helping is good. We need good in the world. Just, if you help too much, in the long-term, you neither help yourself and the other person. You've 1) not helped the person fix their fundamental problem in an efficient way (which is dangerous, because they probably learnt everything from reliance) and 2) gave too much time away, inhibiting their growth.

I explain this in in one of the more 'extreme' cases - 'extreme', meaning it's been taken quite far. Such has lead to an unfulfilled self, paused growth, and kind of bitter feelings from below. This relationship isn't fun, and should be identified asap.

Give the fishing rod. If you can't, I recommend not making it worse for both parties. Take care of yourself, please :).
- Teri

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